As Paul Hegstrom puts it on page 115 of Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them,
Scriptural submission is just as great for the husband as it is for the wife. Eph. 5:25-28 reminds us that as Christ died for the Church, a man should give his life for his wife. A childish, abusive man will spiritually abuse his wife by telling her that she has to be subjected to her husband in everything. He does not realize that a husband's mandate is to literally be willing to sacrifice his life for her. Which is the greater submission? The greater submission is for the man.
Hegstrom points out the same things I did in my July 6, 2009 post, “Itching Ears, part 12 (Cut off Prayers of Husbands).” Husbands are to live considerately with their wives, “
...intelligently recognizing the marriage relationship, honoring the woman as physically weaker, recognizing the equality (joint heirs of grace), one in the same mind (united in spirit), sympathizing with his wife, loving his wife, compassionately, courteously, tenderheartedly, humble-mindedly, never returning evil for evil, never returning insult for insult, never scolding, never given to tongue-lashing, never berating, always blessing, praying for his wife’s welfare and happiness, praying for his wife’s protection, truly pitying (empathizing), truly loving.
If a husband will follow this pattern, the family will be blessed as a unit. If a man rebels against these principles, his prayers will be hindered and cut off, and he will not be able to pray effectively (I Pet. 3:7).
From this research in God’s Word, it is the author’s conclusion that the only prayer that God hears from a man who abuses his wife and family is the prayer of repentance. All other requests are hindered or denied because of God’s hatred of violence.
This is serious! God means business! The man who adds to scripture and gives himself authority over his wife and demands submission from her, while at the same time deleting his own submission role, will not have his prayers answered.
So if he prays for safety as he travels, God will not hear. If he prays for blessing on his business, God will deny his request.
This is not feminism. It is scripture.
Hebrews 10:30-31 For we know him that hath said, Vengeance belongeth unto me, I will recompense, saith the Lord. And again, The Lord shall judge his people. It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.
Waneta Dawn is the author of "Behind the Hedge, A novel,"a story about a woman who grapples with her husband's demands that she submit--no matter what. Please visit www.wanetadawn.com