“You take away and add to scripture, you are aligned with satan and must seek forgivenness, for women are to be submissive to man and man treat women like Christ treats the church, this is why your evil feminist perspective is part of the destruction of the family and you are in great delusion or are a planted wolf, i shake the dust from my feet and rebuke you. May Jesus forgive you.”However, her/his finger is pointed at the wrong person(s). Those who teach that “head” is referring to a husband’s authority or leader role, are both adding to and taking from scripture, and in doing so, start the process of domestic abuse in many marriages. I Timothy 3:4 says a man who wants to be a bishop must be blameless, “one that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity.” Notice the surrounding verses that prohibit the chewing out and beating behavior of abusive men. Also notice that nothing is said about ruling his wife. In fact there is no such command in the New Testament. The command to rule one’s wife is given by the sinful King Ahazuerus, a Gentile, as a way to save face when he commanded Vashti to present herself to his banquet hall of drunken men and she did what was right and refused. And in I Timothy 5:14, according to Strong's Concordance, the KJV directive to wives to "guide the house" actually means they are to rule or be the head of the family. So to say that a husband is to rule his wife is to ADD to scripture.
The command to husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, is the correct definition of “head.” When people skip over this teaching or when they exchange it for another by emphasizing the wife’s submission and de-emphasizing the husband’s loving self-sacrifice, they are TAKING FROM scripture.
The entire Submission Tyranny blog points this out. People can call it feminism if they choose, but that makes the Apostles Paul and Peter into feminists, too, since they are the ones who wrote those scripture passages. And since they were inspired by the Holy Spirit to write those passages, that makes God a feminist, too.
After all, Jesus started the ball rolling in regards to feminism when he spoke to the woman at the well and offered her living water, (the men with him were horrified that he would talk to a woman, and a Samaritan at that!), when he sided with Mary when she washed his feet with her tears and poured expensive perfume on Him, when he told Martha Mary's learning from Him would not be taken from her, when he healed women as well as men although the surrounding culture despised women as mere property, when women were the first to witness the empty tomb. The men in Jesus's culture used, ignored, or treated women with contempt and blame, as they did with the woman who they brought to Jesus claiming they had caught her in the act of committing adultery. Surely she wasn't committing adultery alone! Why didn't they bring the man, too, if the pair was caught in the act? Jesus set the record straight by not heaping blame-for-two on a woman, and by teaching, serving, and respecting women as well as men.
The people who are adding to and taking from scripture are those who set aside the scripture, and replace it with their own male-superior, husband-authority doctrine.
Waneta Dawn is the author of "Behind the Hedge, A novel,"a story about a woman who grapples with her husband's demands that she submit--no matter what. Please visit www.wanetadawn.com