tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4315768639043874540.post2147199024830298528..comments2023-05-10T23:23:48.126-05:00Comments on Submission Tyranny, in Church and Society: Authority and Power, Part 3: The Irony of Husband Authority Reveals a Cover-up www.wanetadawn.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10261516374583209123noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4315768639043874540.post-78453087429799840272013-01-29T00:12:33.962-06:002013-01-29T00:12:33.962-06:00Anonymous, (Jan 26)
Thank-you for your encouragem...Anonymous, (Jan 26)<br /><br />Thank-you for your encouragement! I am so glad my work has been helpful and encouraging to you, that it has not been in vain. <br /><br />You are right about the term "feminist." Both churches and abusers use it to keep women on the defensive, and feeling guilty. Women should NOT be fighting for their "rights," they say, yet men have been demanding their own way for centuries. Men don't call it rights, they call it God-commanded authority, even though God never commanded men to take authority over anyone but themselves, and of course their children. But what men fight for, no matter what they call it, is what they perceive as their "rights." They use God, the Bible, or whatever they have at hand to declare their "rights," then point the finger at women for fighting for justice, decency and equality. <br /><br />The small doses idea I got from Chuck Swindoll years ago. He called it a thimbleful at a time, instead of a truckload. <br /><br />Again, thank-you for your comments; they bless my heart!www.wanetadawn.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10261516374583209123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4315768639043874540.post-80770751306338732682013-01-28T23:57:58.226-06:002013-01-28T23:57:58.226-06:00Kristen,
"Odd that "masculinity" sh...Kristen,<br />"Odd that "masculinity" should be so associated with authority over women that a man can't accept a simple request to pick up soap at the store! If he were secure in his manhood, such a request would not bother him."<br /><br />So true! Isn't it odd that a request from a woman would threaten his "masculinity" but a request from a child generally does not? Now he may not do as the child requested, but he would not connect that with his masculinity. <br /><br />I wonder what it is about women, or his wife, that triggers him to feel threatened. Is it that she is female? Is it that she is more gifted than he is? Is it that other men may call him henpecked? That pastors may chide him for not maintaining authority? Waneta Dawnhttp://www.wanetadawn.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4315768639043874540.post-34773768088145903672013-01-28T23:47:03.757-06:002013-01-28T23:47:03.757-06:00Thanks Shadowspring! Still catching up, but it fee...Thanks Shadowspring! Still catching up, but it feels good to do some writing.www.wanetadawn.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10261516374583209123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4315768639043874540.post-38178543151606007362013-01-26T19:43:40.351-06:002013-01-26T19:43:40.351-06:00Waneta, Thank you for this article and also for yo...Waneta, Thank you for this article and also for your book. So many things I've learned from your writings and also from the videos on Youtube. I won't be able to note them all, but you've influenced my life, through the truth of God's word, and I'm grateful. <br /><br />Feminist. While reading your book, this word kept jumping out at me. How the abusive husband threw this at his wife, as an accusation. How the wife ended up telling him that yes, if standing up for herself and not taking his abuse was considered feminist, then now he knew. How BEAUTIFUL this was and how it gave me strength. <br /><br />I don't know of ANY churches that speak the TRUTH about what God's word says concerning how husbands should love and treat their wives. And I have NEVER SEEN a marriage like the one the Bible describes. NEVER! So,as you've pointed out in many of your posts, EVERYBODY loses! The children, both partners and Christ. Why Christ? Because our love and our witness for Him, due to incorrect teaching, doesn't stand up, because it's not based on HIM! We are so busy trying to paste on this SUPPOSED rendition of what a marriage looks like, that we miss the chance to let HIM be the head. <br /><br />Small doses. This was something you pointed out in one of the videos. That sometimes we need to hand out the wisdom we have earned (usually after MUCH anguish), in little increments, to those who may not yet have their eyes so widely opened. This too helps me because it reassures me that I can share SOME of the truth I've learned without feeling the need to spill everything. It's how God dealt with me when he was revealing the truth about abuse, in small doses, so that my mind and my heart could adjust without completely destroying me. So again, thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4315768639043874540.post-57054953891367878252013-01-07T01:09:07.478-06:002013-01-07T01:09:07.478-06:00Odd that "masculinity" should be so asso...Odd that "masculinity" should be so associated with authority over women that a man can't accept a simple request to pick up soap at the store! If he were secure in his manhood, such a request would not bother him. The fact that it does shows that since he has swallowed the lie that to be a man means to be in authority, and he doesn't really have the gift of natural leadership, he feels his authority--and thus his manhood-- is constantly threatened.<br /><br />The wife's only recourse is to stop asking directly and honestly for what she needs, and start manipulating him into thinking picking up the soap was his own idea. Very, very sad. Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08252374623355509404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4315768639043874540.post-30978941428877296892013-01-06T16:07:17.582-06:002013-01-06T16:07:17.582-06:00So good to see you're still bloggin Waneta. T...So good to see you're still bloggin Waneta. Thank you! Great message, as always. <br /><br />SSshadowspringhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15172112981244682382noreply@blogger.com